The most important thing to do when you are worried about the income balance with your boyfriend

 The way we work, the way we love, the way we live, everything is different now in Reiwa. Experts in various fields will answer the "new money hacks" behind the countless changes. The respondent this time is Ms. Ueno, a columnist from Love Hotel.

This time's story "Boyfriend with income difference. Should I start a family after marriage?"

Even though the income gap between men and women has narrowed, there are still people in the situation where their partner earns a lot more than they do.

At times like that, you don't have to think, "My salary means so much...?" mosquito. "I don't want to build a career that much..." "Isn't it more efficient to support him as he works hard?" This issue revolves around. How should we think about this unique problem in Reiwa, where it is common for women to build careers?

In this case, if the "future" in the theme refers to economics, this would be a simple math problem.

For example, let's say your current annual income is 3 million yen and your partner's annual income is 10 million yen.

If you quit your job and support your partner with all your might and your partner's annual income is 13 million yen or more, you should go to support now.

Conversely, if that doesn't happen, it's better to continue working normally. I think the problem this time is a problem that can be solved with this simple calculation.

However, this is just my personal opinion, but no matter how much you support your partner, it is highly unlikely that your partner's annual income will increase beyond your current annual income .

Cleaning the house would improve the quality of life for both of them, but I don't think it would increase their income as much as they used to.

In the first place, marriage often improves the quality of life more or less than when you were single, but how much does it increase your annual income?

After all, I just want to quit my job

When I talk about these things with people around me, I tend to say, "It's not that I don't want to continue working," but when I say this, my true feelings tend to be, "I want to quit if I can." You must be

There is no problem with that itself. Most people, including myself, think that "I want to quit my job" at least a little.

So, for example, even if I thought, "I want to quit my job and become a full-time housewife," I have no intention of denying it at all. What is the justification like "I'd rather concentrate on it"?

No matter how you think about it, if you are thinking about the "future" from an economic point of view, it would be overwhelmingly more efficient for the two of you to work together as you are now.

I don't think people with this problem are that stupid. I know I'd be better off keeping my job when it comes to the financial future, but I don't want to just quit my job and justify myself with some mysterious reasoning. Uka

To put it bluntly, I would say, "I want to become a full-time housewife because my husband (boyfriend) is making good money." I thought, but I had no choice but to give up my career to support my husband.”

If you think about the future in an economic sense, it would be better to continue working no matter what you think. If anyone gives any other answer, I can only assume that they are scammers.

Of course, if you have a child in the future, or if your partner's work environment changes significantly, you may want to quit your job, but it's a good idea to think about it when you're in such a situation. You can quit your job tomorrow, but you can't get a new job tomorrow.

stop self-justifying

I have no intention of denying full-time housewives at all, and if you think about the "future" other than the economic sense, a full-time housewife may be an effective option.

Also, I am fully aware that there are people who cannot work or who have no choice but to become full-time housewives for some reason. It's repeated, but I don't mind becoming a full-time housewife because I want to support my husband, or because I don't want to work. .

Some people may wonder if the option of being a full-time housewife is a bad idea in this day and age, but if there is no financial problem in terms of household budget, there is no problem with being a full-time housewife or a househusband. not. Although the expression is bad, it can be said that if someone becomes a full-time housewife, they will be able to find employment if they were originally unemployed.

However, if you act as if you were a victim of coercion and self-justification, even though no one is forcing you to fulfill your wishes, what would it be like? I can't help but wonder.

If you have a problem like this one, and after thinking seriously about "the future in an economic sense", if you seriously come to the conclusion that you should quit your job, I'm sorry, but I don't think you know too much about reality.

Of course, I don't think you reading this are naïve.